We are in the process of looking at secondary schools with James who takes his GCSEs next summer and then starts at sixth form college in Cambridge in September.

There are two schools in particular we are visiting. One isimage regarded as the creme-de-la-creme, and many parents of these kids wouldn’t dream of sending them to the other one down the road which is regarded as a poor relation.

However, that was where David went and did very, very well. In fact, he had the required grades to get into the top notch school, but chose not to. And James could have a place there if he wished as he is predicted varying A-C grades, and pupils need 5 Bs for admission.

However, James is concerned about reports of pressure which pupils there are said to be placed under to perform. I believe that high expectations should naturally be encouraged. But where does that end and extreme pressure take over for the sake of league table rankings?

I must admit I am disappointed with James’ opinion. I was hoping he would go to this highly acclaimed centre of excellence. But he doesn’t feel comfortable about it. He’s heard too many negative reports from other pupils who struggled there. Also, he’s not a natural academic and has many other interests in his life. Like David, he feels he can do just as well at the other school.

I have no choice but to respect his wishes. I want him to be happy and enjoy school life, wherever he chooses to go. And I think he will well. In fact, I know so because I have every faith in him as a rounded person.

To console me, James said: "Don’t worry mum. I’m confident and will always be able to talk myself into a job…"

I think that should be included on a league table somewhere too, don’t you?